Adulthood vs. Childhood – Adora Svitak

Just watched a recent TED posting on YouTube, of Adora Svitak’s talk, titled “What Adults Can Learn From Kids.”

Adora makes the compelling argument that kids have many of the qualities that adults have, with some added qualities that give kids an “edge” when it comes to learning new things and creating.

Her talk was great, and reminded me so much of my own thoughts on this idea (see my post “The Kid In You“).

Adults do need to pay more attention to, listen to, and learn from children more often, and in more diverse ways.  Adora’s addition to that is that adults also need to provide more creation, leadership, and professional opportunities to children.  I couldn’t agree more!

The Philosophical Baby

Just finished reading another book…”The Philosophical Baby,” by Alison Gopnik.  In all, I really enjoyed it!

Interestingly, Gopnik mentions how critical the child’s early environment is to their mental image of the world.  This goes hand in hand with my review of the book The Future of the Body.  Raised in a culture that believes in faith healing, esp, or telekinesis, a child would believe in and attempt to practice those abilities.

She discusses Bayesian statistics – the idea that we create probabilities of possibilities, since nothing is certain – and experiments that seem to show that children are interacting with the world in a statistical fashion.

Well, from the point of view of a psychologist who has spent her career doing statistical behavioral research on children, of course it looks as if they’re thinking statistically about the world.  But is it necessarily true?

The issue is that our definitions of things (babies are statistically solving causal relationships in the world) will define not only the things themselves, but how we are able to think about other things in our world.  Once we see through statistical glasses, everything looks like a statistic.

But it’s not.

The best example I can give is the one that Gopnik uses herself.  Say you have an experiment in which you test a medication on high blood pressure.  The group on the medication has a decrease in high blood pressure.  You assume that it must be the medication causing the decrease in high blood pressure.  Fine.

But then, someone else does an experiment in which they give both groups a pill, neither of which is medication, but they tell one group that they’re receiving the real medicine.  The group that received the “real” placebo sees a decrease in HBP.

What was the medicine?

What happens, I think, as we become “adult” is that we rely more and more on the “causal” relationships we’ve identified in the world around us.  We believe our own press…or do our own supply…however you want to look at it.  Life becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy of sorts.  Wherever you look, you find evidence for your beliefs.  Because it’s all you are capable of seeing.

I really liked this book.  It comes so close, throughout, to really showing how there is no true difference between children and adults – it just doesn’t quite get there.

For instance, the author frequently cites “habituation” studies of infants.  “Habituation” refers to the tendency for infants to become disinterested in repetitive stimuli.  That is, when the same thing happens over and over, you stop paying attention to it.  However, habituation isn’t unique to infants, or to children…it’s common in all animals, at all “stages” of life.  TV advertisers are very familiar with habituation.  They change their commercials frequently enough to have a consistent effect on you.  If they just played the same Coke commercial for five years, its effectiveness would be lost.

As a brief aside, it’s interesting to observe that habituation is a physical phenomenon.  Most of the studies done on habituation are “psychological” studies.  How long does it take till this person gets bored of xyz?  But the brain is a physical entity, and the mind is a product of that physical brain.  We can observe habituation in our bodies through exercise, or, say, caffeine.  Have a cup of coffee in the morning, and it spikes your adrenals.  Have a cup every morning for a year, and suddenly, it doesn’t have any effect at all.

All of the examples that Gopnik uses to illustrate how children’s minds operate really end up showing that, through culturally-crafted pruning of behavior, we become the self-fulfilling automatons of our culture.

While that statement is a little forceful, it isn’t too far from reality.

A great example of this shows up in the book, around the middle, where the author describes a researcher who was studying Mayan culture.  Mayan mothers begin teaching their children basic skills at a very very young age, and they are careful to make sure that the children are paying attention.  This particular researcher was stunned to find 18 month old babies wielding machetes against coconuts, without any concern from their mothers – just as amazed as the Mayan mothers were that the researcher’s young daughter could operate the sink and toilet in a modern bathroom without any supervision.

My biggest point of concern for what is not said in this book goes back to James Carse’s book “Finite and Infinite Games.”

I would say that the definition of “adult” in our US culture is – “one who plays only finite games.”  If you play infinite games, you are “childish.”

You can play many finite games at the same time, but they all must be finite.  For instance, you can simultaneously be Christian, a scientist, and an NRA member.  But, as Carse says, you must play, so you cannot play.

The thing I love is the thing I hate.  Alison Gopnik, through her exposition of psychological studies of infants and children (which necessarily draw a dividing line between them and adults), shows us the qualities that we, as adults, have given up…

That we can take up once again…

Neoteny

What the hell?!  Is this a post about “The Matrix, Part 4?”

No…but that’d be cool!

“Neoteny” means “the retention of childish characteristics,” and it’s one of the hallmarks of human beings, according to several “pro’s.”

I was first exposed to the term by Frank Forencich at the first Exuberant Animal seminar last year.  In EA terms, neoteny is the ability to continue to play even though you’ve reached “adulthood.”

I discussed the arbitrariness of the distinctions between “adult” and “child” in a previous post, but I’d like to revisit that post here.

What does it mean that we’re neotenous?  First, it means that human animals remain undeveloped longer than almost all other animals.  Ashley Montagu calls the process of development that continues after birth “exterogestation” (Montagu, pg. 91).  Montagu wrote a book called “Growing Young,” all about the neoteny of humans, back in 1983.

We continue to mature practically for as long as we decide to do so.  We can continue to learn new things until we die.  We can continue to do things that children do, as long as we continue to do them, that is.

McDougall points this out in his book “Born to Run.”  He says at one point that the reason the Tarahumara are such great runners is that no one ever told them to slow down, or that running was not “adult.”  They start running as children, playing running games, and continue to develop their abilities deep into “old age.”

What strikes me most about the neoteny of the human race is that it is a recognized fact, yet conspicuously hidden from us.  We can’t see it, because it’s right under our nose.  I just saw a commercial for “Dave & Buster’s,” an adult playground, for fat lazy kids.  But the commercial shows a couple of guys and their “fun” – miniature versions of themselves.  They go to D&B’s to let their fun play.

Which leads me to one of the problems of being a neotenous creature, especially when all survival needs are satisfied beyond reason.  That is, they’re capable of remaining “retarded” forever.  I don’t mean “mentally disabled.”  I mean, undeveloped.  Child-men/-women rule the world, instead of man-/woman-children.

Seem like an arbitrary difference?

The Kid in You

I read Brian Grasso’s most recent post to the IYCA website, and realized something about my own approach to training – both of myself and of my clients.  Brian interviewed renowned strength and conditioning coach Juan Carlos Santana about the way JC trains kids at his facility.

Reading the interview, I realized that I approach all of my clients the way J.C. describes his approach with child-athletes.

Then I realized something else…that this focus we have on “adulthood,” and on “acting like an adult,” is another of the cultural mores I was talking about in my most recent post.  Similarly with the other items on my list, being “adult” ultimately costs a lot more than being a “child.”  Not in terms of energy – kids are infinitely more active in general than adults – but in terms of wear-and-tear on the system in general.  Think about the things we associate with adulthood (here’s a list from Wikipedia):

  • Self-control – restraint, emotional control.
  • Stability – stable personality, strength.
  • Independence – ability to self-regulate.
  • Seriousness – ability to deal with life in a serious manner.
  • Responsibility – accountability, commitment and reliability.
  • Method/Tact – ability to think ahead and plan for the future, patience.
  • Endurance – ability and willingness to cope with difficulties that present themselves.
  • Experience – breadth of mind, understanding.
  • Objectivity – perspective and realism.
  • Decision making capability – as all of the above correspond to making proper decisions.
  • Priorities – Ability to determine what is necessary at that place and time.

While all of these are qualities that we associate with adulthood/maturity, and they’re all “necessary,” the degree or extent to which each quality is emphasized is a matter of debate.

In fact, I’d like to make a point, and then ask that you read that list again.  I’ve seen all of these qualities exhibited in children.  The degree, or ultimate direction of their action might be different than it would be for an adult,
but the qualities they exhibit are identical.

All human beings learn by doing, by interacting with their environment.  They learn that they can manipulate things through the repetition of movement “experiments.”  They learn responsibility when their actions come back to bite them.  They learn endurance when an old method no longer works in a new situation, and they have to continue to experiment to find the answer.

What we associate with “adulthood” in this country is a certain type of demonstration of the qualities in the list above.  And I think the one thing that characterizes this type – adulthood – most, is inflexibility or lack of experimentation.

Think about it.  What is the one quality present in children, that is not commonly present in most adults, that is also missing from that list?  Creativity.

The creative, flexible, experimental attitude of children is one of the things that allows them to learn and grow at such an astonishing rate.  There are other things, such as their lack of experience, that also help them to be more receptive than adults can be at times, but the open attitude that is associated with creativity and experimentation is central to learning.

These qualities are also associated with something that is deemed “childish” by our society – Play.  We look at adults who like to play (I mean, really play, not professional athletes…they aren’t playing, they’re working) as being simple or foolish.  And we only allow a few of the very top professional athletes to exhibit anything remotely resembling play.  Only those who have “paid their dues” or who exhibit such otherworldly performance as to be beyond reproof (or the ones we set up as our jesters, our fools, the ones whose antics are part of their work) have the right to play during their sport.  This is one of the reasons that I’m a member of organizations like the IYCA and Exuberant Animal – those organizations foster growth through play – one focused on children, the other on “adults.”

So, how do I train my clients?  The same way I would train anyone, of any age.  First, I assess their current state.  Where are they starting from?  What, based on my experience, do they need to do to create a solid foundation for future health and fitness?  Then, I ask them what their goals are, what their prior experience with exercise is, etc.  I’ll explain to them why we might be starting at a point that seems far removed from their ideal goal-state.  Then I’ll design their program.  But for just about everyone (just about), the programming is the same:

  • Postural/structural focus
  • General warmup
  • Basic movement abilities/patterning
  • More specific warmup
  • Strength training
  • More movement focus
  • Stretching/cooldown, and more postural work.

It seems like a lot for one session at first glance, but the lines between posture-correction and warmup start to blur, as does the junction between specific warmup and strength training.  Also, movement focus occurs throughout the workout.  (I don’t like isolation exercises, unless there’s a very specific reason for them).  That list takes about 50 minutes to an hour from start to finish – which just happens to be the length of a training session – and provides a workout that supplies stimulus to every movement ability my clients possess.

One of the main things I try to do in every session is to create opportunities for creativity, problem-solving, and exploration.  I can do this subtly, by asking the client to perform a new movement, or one that they haven’t done since they were a child, or more directly, by having them choose the next exercise, or the way the exercise is performed (within the limits of safety, of course).

Basically, I just try to do what every good parent does – create a safe place where the individual’s capabilities can flourish.  And you know what, they always do.