The Victim

King among the roles we may play in our lives is the role of the Victim.

The Victim says that everything is everyone else’s fault. That we are helpless.

We may learn this role through any number of ways – role models, peers, media, teachers…

Once we’ve learned this role, though, it becomes easier and easier to use.

The role of the Victim is an effort in energy conservation. If everything is out of our hands, we don’t have to do anything. We can get by just complaining…and suffering.

Music is another source to learn about Victim approaches.

Listen to your favorite love song, or breakup song. Most of them blame the other person for the feelings the singer is experiencing.

My father said that most “serious” classical music is written in a minor key. Why is that? His guess is that the composers were too busy to write music if they were having fun and feeling good…most of the time, they wrote when they’d broken up with their significant other, had a fight, were depressed, etc.

Look for the Victim in yourself. Track it, and when it comes up, make friends with it. It’s part of you, not to be cut out.

However, there are ways to make the Victim into something more productive.

The next time you hear your Victim speaking up, ask yourself, “Is that really true? Is there nothing I can do?”

It’s almost never the case (especially in our country) that there is nothing to be done about a situation. Options are endless.

The next step is to create. Begin to brainstorm ways to deal with the situation. Pick the first best one and try it. If it doesn’t work, do the next…and so on down the list.

Take your time to feel it out, and to learn whatever lesson the Victim, and your attempts at creative solutions, are telling you.

If you have apprehension about this, try to find a supportive friend who can help you in the process (one, preferably, who won’t try to rescue you themselves, but will allow you to go through the process and learn from it).

Have fun!

Priorities in Education

My good friend Kwame Brown recently posted an article from the Star Tribune’s “Your Voices” site, entitled “Stadiums versus our children’s future.” The article asks why $1 billion would go to a new Minnesota Vikings stadium, while funding for Early Childhood Development (ECD) seems impossible to get.

I posted a response to the article on Kwame’s site, which I am republishing in full here.  I’d love to know what you think about this.

Interesting article, for many reasons.

This argument is old as the hills.

What blew me away was his honesty, right up front.  The author says – “I’m not sure it was a realistic choice (in part because I love the Vikings).”

This is how he initially frames his review of different policies and reasons for ECD.  So the entire time, in the back of our minds, we’re thinking “it isn’t realistic.”

He sums up by serving another seemingly insurmountable blow to the whole concept, quoting the unnamed state legislator, who says – “It’s simple, at the Legislature it is about entrenched interest and power and children don’t have either.”

How are we supposed to feel when we read an article like that?  Does it lead us to come up with solutions, or merely to shrug our shoulders at the progress of the “inevitable?”

The question posed (which is never explicitly posed, or expanded upon) is “How do we get more funding for ECD?”

Priorities will always be priorities.  But priorities are shifted by action.  The Minnesotan’s love of the Vikings is a priority that is manufactured by media, social persuasion, and everything underlying that (desire for power?  money?).

The question is, how do we shift priorities, or at least make our priority (ECD) seem like a valuable partner-priority to already existing, dominant priorities?

Tax-breaks are one way.  Why do we always see those United Way campaign commercials from NFL footballers?  Well, teams/organizations and individuals get to write off charitable donations.  Maybe that’s one way.

Another way is one that Arne Naess recommended the “ecological” movement in the 1970′s take – to make an economic argument for “green.”  It took a lot of years for people to grasp his message, but now that it’s happened, you see it everywhere.  Everything is sold as “green,” and people come together under the “green banner” to get things done (even very opposite groups, like Exxon and Greenpeace).

Under the “green banner,” and all of the ideals and slogans that it stands for, corporations can see a way to continue to make profits while serving the people’s desire for efficiency and ecological-friendliness.

Many of the efforts for ECD, or childhood development in general (including play and physical education, arts education, and education generally), fail to recognize this important fact – their “customer” is the organization from which they’re seeking assistance.

That is, they need to market to the groups they want help from…

Instead, these groups often just talk about their own interests – like a selfish boyfriend or girlfriend.  “Blah blah blah, I want more money for the children…” is all the owners of the Minnesota Vikings hear.  They drink their wine, look around anxiously at the other tables in the restaurant, wondering how the Redskins owners got that good looking partner, and why they’re laughing and having so much fun…they excuse themselves to go to the bathroom and then make a break for their car, never looking back.
Consider this – how would you create a “product” out of Early Childhood Development?  What would that product look like.  What problem would it solve for the people who could buy it (who are not children, by the way…they are adults, and in the case of the article listed, corporations)?  What are the compelling fears and desires of your customer (those adults and corporations), and how can you appeal to those fears and desires in your marketing?  How do you solve their problem?  How do you put the risk of buying your product on yourself, and take the risk off of your prospective customer?  Finally, how do you sell it?  And once it is sold, what happens next?

2010 Resolutions – Best of 2009 Fitness List

It’s that time of year…or slightly past it!  Time to make resolutions.

I used not to be one of those people who made resolutions.  I wasn’t very goal-oriented.  I was more interested in focusing on the moment.

But sacrificing long-term planning for the moment, I came to find, is as misguided as losing your now-focus for lots of pie-in-the-sky long-term plans.  Both, in equal measure, lead to the best results.

With that said, I’d like to say this – whatever your specific goals for 2010, have the general goal of getting in shape.  And, as far as that’s concerned, do anything!

Don’t lose your “now-focus” for long-term planning about what you want to do fitness-wise.

Here are a few ideas that might help – my review of the “best fitness stuff” of 2009.

Exuberant Animal

Jump for Joy!

While my career with Exuberant Animal and play-based fitness started in 2008 at the first EA conference, I wasn’t certified as an EA trainer till 2009, and didn’t start my foot camp till last summer.

I highly recommend any of Frank Forencich’s books, and incorporating play into your exercise routine and your life. If you want ideas for how to do this, go to any local playground and watch what the kids are doing. Better yet, join them! Alternatively, for you readers out there, you can go to the EA games page.

Vibram FiveFingers

I was introduced to the concept of “minimalist footwear” and barefoot training this year, first, by Barefoot Ted McDonald.  Then, through Chris McDougall’s great book “Born to Run” (which is later on the list).

The FiveFinger shoes offer a fantastic new way to train, with a barefoot feel.  I highly recommend these to anyone.  Ease into their use.  If you haven’t been  barefoot much in the past few years, start off by wearing them for short walks, or during your regular workout, and then going back to your normal footwear.

Injinji Toe-Socks

Monkey Socks, Anyone?

Also, I highly recommend buying the Injini socks.  My first pair of Vibrams got a little stinky (which is why I recommend the KSO’s over the Flow model).  My second pair I ordered with about four pair of Injini toe-socks.  So far so good!

The only thing about the toe-socks is, they don’t keep your feet very warm.  So, if you’re in a cold climate, you might put off till later in the springtime to try these first two suggestions out – unless you’re an indoor exerciser.

Chris McDougall’s Book – Born to Run

Great Book!

While it isn’t necessarily a piece of “fitness equipment,” everyone I’ve known who has read this book has been so inspired by it that they’ve at least tried barefoot walks (if not runs, or workouts in Vibrams).  I highly recommend this book!

Joe DeFranco’s Built Like a Badass Program

Meatheads Unite!

I’ve written about this program several times in the past couple of months.  It is far and away the best “cookie-cutter” weight training program I’ve ever seen or used.  If you’re a moderately-experienced weight trainer, buy the program and use it this year.

Kettlebells

Cannonballs with Handles

I had never been a big fan of kettlebells or kettlebell training till I used them for my Highland Games training this year.  Now, I’m a firm believer in the efficacy of this training tool.

While the kettlebells are “just another tool in the toolbox,” or “just another type of load,” they offer such a diverse array of possibilities that few other “stand alone” tools can compare in the diversity of movement (except maybe one, which I’ll be unveiling in another week or so!!).

If you’re interested in kettlebells, find a good instructor to work with.  Someone who is RKC, AKC, Steve Maxwell, or Steve Cotter certified will be able to get you started with great technique, and a kettlebell weight and program that are appropriate for your body.

Is that it?!

Bare-bones and Barefoot

Unless you can make it up to Whidbey Island, WA, to train with the Barefoot Sensei…yeah, that’s it!  I’m not reviewing every exercise program or technique I’ve ever used here, just the ones I found especially good from 2009. If you want other ideas, recommendations, or sources, drop me a line. I’m more than happy to help!

Have fun everyone!!!

Some recent lessons

I haven’t done a “cookie-cutter” weightlifting program in years.  Probably not since I bought Ross Enamait’s excellent book “Never Gymless.”  I think that was in 2006.

Since then, I’ve created my own training programs.  I’ve vacillated wildly between types of training – weightlifting, bodyweight, o-lifts, Crossfit and Crossfit-style workouts, rings/gymnastics, etc.

Too much stuff!

I feel like I’ve learned some things since then, and figured I’d share some of those lessons.

1. Cookie-cutter programs aren’t all bad.  Hell, I and most of my friends learned everything we knew about the gym from magazines, and from trying out programs in those magazines.  I still like to try people’s programs, to see how they affect my body.  While I might fiddle with them a little, I try to adhere as closely as possible to the program as-is, to see what happens.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll pitch it again, because I think the guy has a ton of integrity.  DeFranco’s “Built Like a Badass” program is fantastic.  It’s based on the “core lifts” (bench press, deadlift, squat, overhead press), is based around the individual’s current single-rep maximum, and progresses up nicely.  I don’t know how it would work with a pure “beginner,” but it’s working great for me.  Try it out if you’re looking for something new.

2. Related to the above, I feel more and more like strength is built in the gym, but skill is built on the field of practice.  Modern “functional training” has athletes doing a lot of stuff that is not related to strength training in the gym.

3. Strength is best built using the “classic lifts”/”fundamental movement patterns,” and adhering to the guidelines of good form.

4. This is where “functional training” or “corrective exercise” come in.  When an individual has a limitation that doesn’t allow them to perform the “classic lifts” or fundamental movement patterns in a way that is biomechanically sound for them, you have to start incorporating the lessons from functional/corrective training methodologies.

5. If the individual’s form is breaking down because the weight is too heavy for them, you have to evaluate the risk/reward equation for them.  Is it worth it to possibly get injured in the gym, in order to lift more weight that day?  Maybe.  Maybe not.

6. There is no “perfect” anything.  There’s no “perfect” form.  There’s really good form for a particular individual at a particular time.  There’s no “perfect” program.  There’s a really good program for an individual at that time.

7. Athletes need specificity.  The general person needs general movement.

Let me be more clear.  When you have specific tasks or demands that you have to accomplish, you have to be very specific with the type, frequency, and intensity of the movements you engage in.  When you don’t have anything so specific, you have free reign to do whatever you want to.

That being said, while the athlete’s “skill” training (aside from the “skill” of strength) will be specific to their sport, position, or event, the general gym-goer will benefit from playing more to develop skill.

8. Rhythm is critical to success.  As the saying goes, “timing is everything.”  I’d make it more specific – “rhythm is everything.”  Find the rhythms in your life and synchronize them to your best advantage.  Use rhythm in your training, both in terms of programming, and in terms of practice itself – engage in rhythmical movement more frequently.

Ok, that’s all folks…more later.  Appreciate any thoughts on the above…

Pro Sports, Drugs, Testing, and more Lip-Service

I’m really grateful for excellent bloggers like JR Atwood at Playthink.  JR has again prompted me to write an entry that is essentially a response/reflection on one of his recent posts.  JR’s post has a highlight section of the discussion between Bill Simmons and Malcolm Gladwell about sport celebrity…that, to me, goes nowhere.  The topic of the part of the discussion posted in JR’s blog is about the public reaction to sports-celebrities’ behaviors, and how “random” those reactions appear to be.

While a fascinating topic in itself, that conversation really goes nowhere.  There are no answers in the end.  Why?

That’s the reason for this post.

I’m confused by the Gladwell/Simmons conversation.  They only talk around their subject-matter, describing it, but not uncovering anything.

What’s strange to me is that neither of them points out that expectations of (or reactions-to) professional athletes and their behavior are entirely fabricated.  They’re created by the media, the consensus-view of the commentators, and the consensus-view of the viewers.  Granted, that’s a vague statement, but stick with me for a second.

What I’m saying is that there is no “strict moral ground” by which to judge the behavior of celebrity athletes (or any celebrity, for that matter).  Instead, the reaction is more a conflagration of the “public image” of that athlete, the media’s reaction/billing of the behavior, and the public’s buy-in to that billing.

I don’t think the reaction has anything to do with the “volatility of statistics.”  Stats are meaningless if a game is “infinite” (played for its own sake, to continue playing, as opposed to played to win).  Therefore, the value of stats is agreed-upon before the sport is begun.  The rules are laid out.  “This is a finite game.  It is played to win.  Therefore, we keep track of everything.”

This is also a cultural creation.  What are the meaning of statistics?  The meaning, like the meaning of celebrity athletes’ behavior, is culturally created.  What is the meaning of one or several players taking performance-enhancing drugs (PED’s) and thereby skewing those stats?  How can one really know?

At this point, I’d like to turn to the PED discussion.  Because it does highlight what’s happening underneath this discussion of celebrity-athlete behavior and public reaction.

Here’s the deal, and here’s what fascinates me the most – This “debate” itself is a game.

It’s similar to the “healthcare debate” entry I posted.  Till cultural change occurs that supports all of the talk about healthcare change/promotion, any talk about healthcare is mere lip-service.  No true change can occur until the culture will support that change.

Similarly, until a systematized, reliable, regular, and transparent method of testing athletes for PED’s is put into place, there’s no real telling what the “true” stats are.

Along with any other specifics about the subject matter they propound on, Gladwell and Simmons don’t discuss the testing policies/procedures in place now, or the history behind those policies.

While they were “banned” in 1991, “random” drug testing was only started in MLB in 2001.  Steroids were only banned in the NBA in 1999.  And, though steroids were “banned” in the NFL in 1990, loopholes were found in 2005 that allowed Carolina Panthers players to be prescribed banned substances two weeks prior to the 2004 Superbowl. (go here for the USA Today article outlining the last two references).

I put “random,” and “banned’ in quotes above, because, to the best of my knowledge, testing is far from random, and (as in the case of the Panthers), performance-enhancing substances are far from truly banned.  Instead, players are tested who will test positive.  Occasionally, a scapegoat may be needed, or someone out of which to make an example, and they’ll be tested.  Or, someone from outside the organization will report unfavorable news and the whole thing will blow up.

My point about testing, above, is to say that the stats are already skewed.  It’s impossible to know what the true stats are for sports until everyone is tested.  If that’s your goal.

But I don’t think that it is.

This site has a nice “news-based” overview of drugs in sports, that shows clearly that athletes have always used “performance-enhancing drugs” of some sort or other.  So the question I come to is not whether or not PED’s should be banned, or whether or not they’re skewing sporting outcomes, but what the game is behind this discussion.

What is the purpose of organized sports?  “Bread and circus?” – that is, a distraction for the masses?

For those who believe that organized sports are simply there because so many people enjoy watching them, I strongly disagree.  At the point at which a thing becomes a multi-billion dollar industry, people’s enjoyment, as being free from coercion, diminishes exponentially.

So if it doesn’t really matter…that is, if there’s no way to know what the “real” stats are, and there’s no “real” ground by which to judge a (any) celebrity’s behavior, what are we talking about here?

I don’t think we’re really talking about anything.  Certainly nothing of importance.  Just surface characteristics of a much larger dynamic.

It’s like talking about the weather.  How is it?  The city-slicker hates the rain, the farmer loves it.  Same rain.

But hate it or love it, there it is.

Why do we talk about the weather?  It’s easier than doing something.  It’s easier than admitting that we have no control over it.  Comfort?  I don’t know…you tell me.

There is no “mind”

I just got about fifty pages into the book “The Joy of Living, Unlocking the Secret & Science of Happiness,” by Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche – and had to put it down.

Now, I don’t mean to “put it down,” but I have some serious misgivings about this book.  Misgivings that won’t allow me to continue to read it.

For one thing, I question the persistent use of Buddhism, and the persistent presence of Tibetan Buddhists, in motivational literature.

I question that even more when the literature “merges Eastern and Western views.”

First, Buddhism, at best, is a religion.  Before you read the rest of this, you should read James Carse’s most recent (and excellent) blog entry (and probably his book, too).

In short – in case you don’t have time to do all of that preliminary reading right now – Carse draws a distinction between Finite Games and Infinite Games.  Finite Games are games that are played to win.  There is a Finite end to them.  Infinite Games are games that are played to keep playing.  There is no end to those games.

Now, Carse would rather make the distinction between “belief” (as infinite game) and “religion” (as finite game).  Though I’d say it’s rather different.

A religion is an “infinite game.”  A religion is about Mystery.  It is not necessarily “organized” or “indoctrinated.”  It is a thought, a pattern, a method, a Way, that the religious person carries with them.  Through it, they try to decode the Mystery of What-Is.

An ideology (or what Carse would say is religion) is a finite game.  It is the indoctrination of a religion, a religious belief.  An ideology plays to win.  It pits itself over and against The Other, whatever that Other may be – another religion, another ideology, etc.

My first problem is this – at best, science is religion.  It is a search for the meaning of Mystery.  It is the quest to continue searching.  There is no “end” to true science.  Just as there is no “end” to true religion.  It is a tool for constantly experiencing What-Is.

At worst, science and religion are ideology.  In those instances, as I’ve mentioned, they are pit against other beliefs.  They create the distinction of Self/Other.  They tear apart, break down, set brother against brother.

So, to be clear, the book needs to say what it is talking about.  Is it talking about the religions of Buddhism and science, or the ideologies of Buddhism and science.

Secondly, while I do feel upset about the injustices the Tibetan people have suffered, I disagree with the use of Tibetan Buddhist monks, or Tibetan Buddhism, to promote the cause of Tibet against China.

This, again, is creating an ideology of Buddhism.

Whatever, right?

Now that that’s said, I’ll tell you why I had to put the book down.

There is no mind.

Around page 28 (or the beginning of Chapter 2), the author begins to talk about the mind, and the origin of mind.  Then he talks about the brain, and the fact that the mind cannot be found within the brain.  Rather, he says, the mind is a process, not a static thing.  It cannot be pinpointed because it is constantly moving.

While I agree with the idea of mind-as-process, I think the distinction between mind, brain, and, necessarily, body, points to the Self/Other dialectic in this book.  It points to the place where the author is misguided.

There is no “mind.”

As I mentioned in previous posts, there is no “separation” of the body from the external environment.  The “external environment” is the human “external organ.”  Without it – as without any “internal organ” – the human animal dies.

Similarly, the human animal changes in response to changes in its external organ.  If the external organ is healthy, the animal is healthy.  If the external organ is sick, the animal is sick.  Just as with the internal organs.

Where is the separation?

Finally, find the clear dividing point, where one part of the brain effectively stops, and “the body” begins, and I will nominate you for a Nobel Prize in Godliness.

There is no “clear separation” between the “brain” and “body.”  They are the same thing.  Without a part of your “body,” the part of the “brain” that is associated with that part of the “body” withers and dies.

We could almost say that they were one and the same.

Scientists have found cerebrospinal fluid in collagen tubules throughout the body.  That is – fluid that bathes your spinal cord and brain flows through your entire body.

This should not be surprising.

There is no “dividing line” between your body and itself.

Similarly, there is no “dividing line” between your body and anything else.

The dividing lines that we draw are drawn for the sake of convenience.  Those lines, again, are tools to help us to understand the Mystery, and to work with it effectively.

But they don’t really exist.

In the same way, if you were to look at a map of the countryside, just an aerial photograph, you might say – “Oh look, a river, a  mountain, and a forest.”  But you would all say that they are part of the terrain.  And if you were to cut out any one of those things from the, let’s say square, map, you would say “This map is incomplete.”

Were we to draw state and county lines on the map, you wouldn’t say they were “real.”  They’re effectively real, because we’ve agreed to those terms.  That’s part of the infinite game – the rules of the game we’ve agreed to play.

In the terrain itself, you might walk over that river, through the woods, to grandmother’s house (sound familiar?).  But you wouldn’t say “well, where is the wilderness here?” would you?  It’s all around.  You wouldn’t say “the wilderness is only in the river,” or “only in the forest.”

Looking for “mind” in the body, or even “in the mind” is like looking for the wilderness in the river.  It isn’t there.  It’s in the crunch of the leaves under your feet, and the sound of the squirrel’s alarm-call as you approach.  It’s in the sound of birds’ wings overhead, that look like kites etched against the blue sky.  And it’s the blue sky, and the wind whistling through tree branches.  It’s in the stink of the rotten tree you climbed over and the squirming bodies of the insects you exposed when your foot went through that soft trunk.  It’s in your hands.  It’s in you.  It is you, too.

Mind is the same.  Keep looking for it, Huck Finn.  I have a map for you right here.  You and the other kids can help.

I am glad I read the first 50 pages of this book.  The book was a great help to me, actually.  It helped me to realize that this distinction runs so deeply, and to see the Self/Other dialectic at work in a new way.

But I won’t recommend it.

Bernie DeKoven, FunSmith – Learning to Have Fun in 3 parts

Bernie DeKoven has been having fun for a long time. He has done all kinds of fun things with all kinds of people in all kinds of places using all kinds of things as toys.

He has posted three entries on his blog designed to help you to have more fun, and I think they’re really good. Check them out.

Part 1 – Start with the fun that is already there

Part 2 – Explores the senses of play

Part 3 – Know what fun is

Enjoy!